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I feel a little disconnected when we both scroll on our phones during dinner, because I really look forward to that time to just catch up with you.
Honest, because it's private
You each pick a word alone. Neither of you can see the other's until you've both chosen.
You
Them
Today · Mon, Apr 27
Sealed until you've both chosen.
The small things, remembered
The coffee they made you. The thing you keep meaning to say. The week you were away. Each lands on the day it belongs to.
Gratitude
You made coffee before I was even up. Small, but it set my whole morning.
Acts of service
Moment
The way you choked on a piece of carrot at dinner.
Trip
Five days away, just us. Outlined on the calendar so it never blurs together.
Portugal
Milestone
The first time we kissed :o
Example entries, written for this page.
See what you couldn't alone
Nobody remembers a month accurately. Each week, Tend reads your own record back and names the patterns in it.
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Patterns neither of you would catch
Which day of the week runs roughest. How often you land on the same word without discussing it.
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Evidence you find your way back
Rough stretches get named, and so does how long each one lasted.
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A read, not a report
Written in sentences, about the weather between you. Never a score, never a grade.
A fire you tend together
Showing up is the whole thing, and the fire is how you see that you have been.
A number would get read as a grade no matter what sat beside it, so there's a fire instead. A week of tense logged faithfully keeps it lit. It banks down when you stop showing up, never because things got hard.
Banked for now, still warm. One small tending is all it takes to bring it up.
what Tend says at its lowest state
Start tonight, together
One of you starts and sends the other an invite. Your side of the record begins the moment you do; theirs fills in when they join.
